Last night me and my cousin went out to get some Pepsi from a Walgreen’s and had to travel all over to find on that was up at midnight. I parked the car at the 87th & Cottage Grove location and she went in. While I sat there in peace trying to listen to India.Arie tell me how she was ready to accept love, some young men came out of the store and walked over to the truck directly to my right. I paid them no attention after that until another truck pulled up on my left. It was the same two who came out of the store. I looked up into the truck and the guy appeared to be talking down to me but because I did not know him I ignored it. I wrote it off as a figment of my imagination. They got out of the car and Guy A (the one speaking down at me) walks over to the other truck. Then he starts yanking on the door handle of MY CAR!! He then starts to say I can relax because he won’t hurt me. I bend over to crack the window so he can talk. He says some BS about knowing me from somewhere preferably a high school called Harlan. I did not go there, don’t know where it is located and have never been in the vicinity of this school unless I have driven past it unknownly somewhere in my lifetime. I bend over to roll the window back up. He starts to talk to the guy in the truck again. Then turns around and knocks on my window. Asks me some BS like do I know him from a party (I do not party) or through friends (HELL NO!!!). Saying he does not forget faces (neither do I !!). I must have a doppleganger because he does not know me. This entire time Guy B is standing on my side of the car keeping me feeling trapped.
The sad thing is to some I know that scenario sounds like a set up for a scene in a FUCKING horror film, but for me it was creepy but not truly terrifying because I am used to being put in situations similar to this all the time. As a Young Black Woman I have to deal with BS from Young Black Men all the damn time. I do not know what went wrong with the parents, Parenting Skills because most YBM are completely clueless on how to approach a YBW with some class and tact. Then I thought maybe it is me. I am a slightly overweight person and most men feel like women in my category should be very thirsty and desperate. They see me like this:
And that is fine they have their opinion but… I hold myself to a different standard because I see myself like this:
And I really need them to treat me and other YBW how they would treat this woman if they saw her out in public or if she was their woman:
I am a real woman and I work hard and I have morals and values that should be respected. I do not give a FUCK how a YBM feels about YBW, they should be showing all of us the same respect they would want someone to show their mother or grandmother or sister. My size has nothing to do with what kind of woman I am or the value of my life and time. But I am just one case. Many YBM disrespect YBW because they think she is an easy woman, or a dumb woman, or an ugly woman. Most of these idiots only go for women who look like her ^^^^^^^ and they get their heart broke or feelings hurt and then they want to run off to another race of women. Thats fine 2, good riddance to the quitters, YBW do not need a weak man anyway. And I am not just bashing the Educated Young Black Men (they are the quickest to run off to another race because they think they are better then their counterparts). I have meet some YBM from the hood who have “threatened me” with their wants and desires of being with a white woman. Good Riddance!!! Let a lesser woman put up with your ridiculous ways and views on life. I will pray for her and hope she won’t ever leave you.
I am sorry but my anger has been building up because I have been dating since I was 13 and it has been 9 years and 5 serious relationships that have all failed. I have given all 5 five of these males all my love, time, energy, effort and trust. Sadly, I have been hurt in one way or another or in all ways by each one of these men. I thankfully don’t have any children with any of them so I have no ties to them but a lot of women do have kids by men (BOYS!!!) that do not show them their full value. They are broken by these men and it is hard to pick up the pieces once your heart, life and world has been torn apart (I have seen it happen so many times).
Black people are some of the most torn and divided people in the world. Healthy Relationships are the most treasured thing in the world. A vast majority of Black Men have decided to give up on Black women because they perceive us all to have bad attitudes (a lot of Black women do but then again a lot of WOMEN do and anyone would if they have been hurt time and time again). Men are stronger then women with their emotions (nature) and things won’t faze them the same way. The thing is we have to nurture one another and help others heal their wounds. That is what love is about. Why do people think they don’t have to love those who look like them? Black women are loyal to Black men but Black men reject black women. This is tearing me apart. The Black Community is already as fucked as it could possibly be ( an overwhelming amount of broken homes, criminals, single parents, unguided children, missing children, dying children and no father figures). Why do our men think running away is the answer to fixing this problem (someone please tell me)? I am starting to envision a future where black people are as rare to find as Native Americans. That makes me cry and it should make you cry also. Our men are indulging in things that our community cannot afford right now.
Everywhere I turn I am being told by a BM that he wants a woman (Wife) who will love him,cook, clean, take care of the children and raise them right. That is fair but the same has to be reciprocated. These black men envision themselves to be some sort of modern day Martin and they want a Coretta. These men are not anything like Martin because Martin was a fighter. He wanted to uplift the black community and these men are quick to tear it down. Why the fuck do they deserve a Coretta (someone please tell me)? How do we change this? If we don’t Black People will disappear to jails, graveyards and more mixture with other races.
